Hello friends!

Every day lately I wake up feeling like a different person, and so does my husband Ben. I’m curious to hear who else is experiencing this in your life, and how is it affecting you?

For me, my relationship, family, and business are evolving rapidly, and I’m trying to catch up energetically, emotionally, and physically to all of the mind-blowing awesomeness we’ve been blessed to create in the past few years.

Last night, we held our monthly event in San Diego and I was overcome with a combination of excitement, sadness, and anxiety before the event. Some of the emotion belonged to me, some of it was the collective, and I’m not sure what the rest of it was. It doesn’t matter. I just needed it out of my body.

So Ben, my amazingly supportive husband, did an impromptu Explosive Sexual Healing session with me, and I cried and cried and we laughed together at the ridiculousness of the silly voice in my head that still reminds me that I’m a human being in a body.

I’m grateful for our beautiful children, our supportive team, our soul family friends. I’m grateful to have the freedom to do what I love and make a wonderful living doing it.

And I’m most grateful for the relationship I have with Ben. Every day I ask myself, how do we continue to create Lasting Love in our modern age of constant evolution, transition, and transformation?

I’m always asking the question, and the question itself is continually morphing. Ben and I are constantly staying curious and seeking new ways to court one another, to flirt, to go deeper. We are always seeking out the blocks and probing each other to play bigger. This is a question of ongoing intrigue for me…

What I’m sure of is that the old way of doing things is no longer working. We need to throw out the old rules and start from scratch.

When Ben and I met, we both had mastered the traditional dating rules, and we were bored with the game. We were yearning for more depth, more intimacy, and more connection on physical, mental, and emotional levels than we’d experienced in previous relationships. We were starving to be truly met and authentically partnered in spiritual growth. We were looking for someone to challenge us to grow and to hold us to our higher selves, even though we didn’t know what that meant at the time.

So we decided to do something Revolutionary. We dropped the dating game and the roles. Ben and I married 30 days after meeting. The decision to marry was instantaneous for both of us… We both had a powerful knowing that this was the One.

We were vulnerable, truthful, direct, straightforward and honest. We let each other see not just the “good” parts, but the ugly, the wounded, the emotional. We put all of our cards on the table. We said what we wanted.

I told him I wanted marriage and kids. He told me he knew I was the one. We told one another everything about our previous relationships and our wounds. We didn’t hold back.

Sometimes the level of intimacy and vulnerability felt overwhelming. For the first few months, we frequently disagreed passionately and triggered one another.

Letting someone truly see all of me was simultaneously the hardest and most rewarding choice I’ve ever made. It involved my unwavering trust of myself, my deep commitment to working through the hard stuff, and surrendering to my higher self.

Breaking the traditional rules of dating changed my life forever.

Ben and I wouldn’t be together today if we hadn’t pushed through and tried something new. It wasn’t easy, but we knew we needed to do it differently.

Who else is experiencing a need to let go of the old rules? Who else is longing for a new type of relationship? Who else is making it up day by day, moment by moment?

I believe we are here to master reality creation in the 3D, to expand our capacity to love, and to connect with our higher selves so powerfully that we impact those around us positively and profoundly.

I believe we are rewriting this now, together, from nothing.

What do you think?

With love and gratitude,



  • Hi Jen,

    I relate very much with the choice you & Ben made to drop the traditional rules of dating/the dating game. Recently, I began speaking with a young woman online & over the phone. It turns out that I wasn’t aware how ready I am to co-create a life with my twin flame until doing so. As I began speaking with her, we’ve told each other about of our desire for relationship, building a life with someone & fulfilling our planetary purpose (we both seem to be twin flames, though not of each other, apparently)! I can more accurately say I was shown in a much deeper way how much of husband/partner I am, as a year ago I also noted this when I was ready to do the same with my spiritual relationship partner. I didn’t appreciate the implications until now, though! I realize now that twin flame people, we have this in us, this ability to see beyond the bullshit of societal rules, and to just live from a purely raw & authentic place of instantly being together… to embrace each other fully, wholeheartedly, passionately, courageously, boldly, bravely, just being ourselves, truly! I feel I may have met my actual twin flame, recently & I look forward to the unfolding, no matter what the outcome. Thanks so much for your article & work!


  • P.S. I DEFINITELY feel and continue to feel major shifts occurring in me since last year! My spiritual partner noticed it as well. She was not experiencing it, so it concerned, frightened and scared her all at the same time! I feel with these planetary shifts, which are energy shifts, we as twin flame people are being taken through these transformations, for the sake of the planet, due to the work we’re here to do! We have to morph, as the earth and the planets around it morph, to be in alignment with this evolution and expansion! =-) Ta ta!

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